I'm no Dr. Phil, but come on!!
Okay, here is the situation. I had a little misunderstanding with a friend a couple of days ago. After the argument, she acted as though everything was fine, so I left it alone. The very next morning I checked my cell and she left me a 4-minute soliloquy on why she was mad at me. I had no idea the extent of her anger. I was a little troubled because I wish that she had told me in person, (we could have spoken on the phone as well). I realized that we needed to clear things up.
After I played the message, I called her (of course she didn’t pick up—I had to leave a message) and told her that we needed to talk, because she was obviously hurt by the situation (the misunderstanding was so stupid, I don’t even want to write why we fought—sorry! Okay, I will tell you. She thought that I was telling her what to do, when in fact she was disrespecting a few people and I told her to stop).
I saw her on Monday and she acted like nothing had happened. I told her that we should talk and she said that she was okay and there was no need to go over the message. That only made me angry, because if you felt the need to cuss me out on my cell, you obviously had something you needed to get off of your chest. I told her that we eventually needed to talk.
I approached her again today and she refused to acknowledge what had happened. That scared me. I can’t understand how she could totally disregard not only her feelings, but mine. (I know this sounds like she is my man, but I think friendships are as stressful as relationships—that’s another entry!). I was giving her the opportunity to let her feelings out, but she chose to stifle them. I told her that if we didn't speak, it would be difficult for me to talk to her. The fact that she could switch her emotions so easily from happy to sad scared me.
I’m not sure what to do. Do I totally forget it and act like nothing has happened, or do I tell her that in order to have a good friendship we need to actually communicate with one another? I give up!!!!!!!!!!
After I played the message, I called her (of course she didn’t pick up—I had to leave a message) and told her that we needed to talk, because she was obviously hurt by the situation (the misunderstanding was so stupid, I don’t even want to write why we fought—sorry! Okay, I will tell you. She thought that I was telling her what to do, when in fact she was disrespecting a few people and I told her to stop).
I saw her on Monday and she acted like nothing had happened. I told her that we should talk and she said that she was okay and there was no need to go over the message. That only made me angry, because if you felt the need to cuss me out on my cell, you obviously had something you needed to get off of your chest. I told her that we eventually needed to talk.
I approached her again today and she refused to acknowledge what had happened. That scared me. I can’t understand how she could totally disregard not only her feelings, but mine. (I know this sounds like she is my man, but I think friendships are as stressful as relationships—that’s another entry!). I was giving her the opportunity to let her feelings out, but she chose to stifle them. I told her that if we didn't speak, it would be difficult for me to talk to her. The fact that she could switch her emotions so easily from happy to sad scared me.
I’m not sure what to do. Do I totally forget it and act like nothing has happened, or do I tell her that in order to have a good friendship we need to actually communicate with one another? I give up!!!!!!!!!!
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